No one can argue that social media—Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, etc—has changed the way we interact. And now enter the iGen (short for iGeneration), the post-millennials who will be born never knowing a world without an iPhone or Facebook. (Note: I still remember my first phone, affectionately called ‘The Brick,’ which I carried to and from my car like a purse.)
There is no doubt that social media has ushered in some positive changes. For instance, it is much easier to connect with friends and family. If you’re like me, I have family and friends spread across the country and I like (the real like, not the Facebook Like—although I do Like their posts too) being able to see what everyone is up to in near real-time.
But is all this liking and commenting and sharing and re-gramming good for us?
Let’s start by exploring what social media is designed to do. I recently read an interview with Sean Parker on Axios. If you’re not familiar with the name, he is the ex-founding president of Facebook and was played by Justin Timberlake in “The Social Network.” This quote is long, but worth re-quoting. He said:
“The thought process that went into building these applications, Facebook being the first of them, ... was all about: 'How do we consume as much of your time and conscious attention as possible?’ And that means that we need to sort of give you a little dopamine hit every once in a while, because someone liked or commented on a photo or a post or whatever. And that's going to get you to contribute more content, and that's going to get you ... more likes and comments. It's a social-validation feedback loop ... exactly the kind of thing that a hacker like myself would come up with, because you're exploiting a vulnerability in human psychology. The inventors, creators — it's me, it's Mark [Zuckerberg], it's Kevin Systrom on Instagram, it's all of these people — understood this consciously. And we did it anyway.”
Social media is creating a reward trigger for, you guessed it, Dopamine. When you post something, you’ve created an expectation of something to come, in this case, that something is a Like. When you get that Like, you feel happy. That feeling of happiness is created by a release of Dopamine. And since this action—of posting and getting a Like—has made you happy, it creates a need in each of us to do it again and again and again, thus “consuming as much of your time and conscious attention as possible.”
Now listen, I am not railing against social media. But as with everything in life, moderation is the key. There are some simple things you can do to make sure you make the most of your time online without feeling like its consumed your day.
As always, I want to hear from you. How do use you social media? What are you tricks for moderating your time online?
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