How to be a better friend: A relationship series
As this is the “official” month of love, we decided to kick off a series about how to improve relationships—with friends, colleagues at work, your family or spouse. In this post, we’re focusing on how to improve your relationship with friends.
Life is busy and for most of us, its seems as if there is really only enough time to focus on what is right in front of us. But having good friends is important to your overall health and wellbeing. Close friends can:
- Boost your self-esteem
- Support you during a rough patch
- Help reduce your stress
- Improve your mood
- Encourage and motivate you to reach your goals
But to have a good friend, you have to be a good friend. So with that in mind, we’ve put together a few suggestions on ways you can improve your relationship with friends.
Don’t forget the little things. You don’t have to make grand gestures to show your care for a friend. Consider doing little things from time-to-time. Bring soup when a friend comes down with a cold (canned is perfectly acceptable), instead of sending a text, pick up a card and send a handwritten note or drop off a box of their favorite coffee capsules.
Try something new. Have you and your bestie been talking about, say learning to paddle board or maybe you’ve wanted to start a book club. Trying new things with a friend creates a strong bond over a shared experience, deepens your relationship and gives you lifelong memories.
Carve out quality time. Again, quality time doesn’t have to be about planning a major outing. It can be something as simple as watching a movie or going to the park on a beautiful day or meeting for coffee just to catch up. The emphasis is on making time for those in your life that are important.
Talk less and listen more. Put your phone on silent and set it aside and just listen. No one wants to talk to a friend who makes them feel that the latest post on Instagram or the text that just came through is more important than they are. And there might just be a time when you really need someone to listen to you so make sure you are adept at returning the favor.
Celebrate each others wins. Did your BFF just land a new job or get engaged or finish a huge project at work? Take time to acknowledge their achievements and cerebrate their accomplishments. Again, grand gestures not needed here. Send flowers, drop off lunch or just sent a note. But don’t miss the opportunity to let your friends know you’re proud of them.